Grinity, thank you, and I totally agree. I don't plan to say anything to the school unless (and maybe not even then?) they push back on my son's scores. Even then, I would have mixed feelings: If those are his true scores and they're not right for this particular gifted program, I don't want to push him into something that will set him up for failure. But if he's on the cusp, and I suspect (as I do, based on the limited information before me) that he would do very well in that program, then there might be a question in my mind as to whether the less-than-optimal testing made a difference.
I do hate to think that other children, with perhaps more anxiety than my own, would experience the same and be negatively affected by it. And yet...even as I type this...I know I won't say anything. Exactly as you point out, it's not wise to criticize at a time when I need the district to be as forthcoming and cooperative with me as possible (though perhaps I will find the right time to say something in the future). I mainly wanted to know if that was normal, given that this is our first IQ test experience (DD8 is my oldest, and my own IQ test as a child was different than today's, I believe), and see if anyone here had the same reaction I did. Thanks for the thoughtful feedback!
