Hi mom2la,
I sure don't think you are making a mountain out of a molehill, sorry your DD and you are going through this.
I hate to say this, but some schools are starting the dreaded January review, I think this was touched on in another thread. Maybe this is what's causing her to become more vocal about her displeasure.
All of the above are really good ideas. We just went through this before Christmas break and I focused heavily on how DD was feeling. I definately think the teacher is more likely to relate to this dilemma. They don't seem to like the B work and I guess I understand, nobody likes to think they are not doing their job. Especially if she really is a great teacher, which it sounds like she is, like she gets DD.
FWIW, this is when I stepped in and told them(teacher and principal) I felt she was innapropriately placed in second. The implication was that DD was innapropriately placed because of who DD is, not because school is not doing a good job. I also told them I felt she was a good candidate for a skip. The only thing that stopped me in my tracks was DD. She practically became hysterical when I suggested it to her. If she was game, I would have pushed for it without looking back.
Maybe you could feel teacher out and ask in a nice way after explaining how she is dealing/not dealing with outpacing the others in class in terms of speed of learning. Teacher already agrees with that right? Maybe you could ask teacher if she felt DD is appropriately placed in the grade. At our school the teacher is the gatekeeper. It is my impression the teacher makes the recommendation whether or not to pursue for a skip. If she's on your side, it can't hurt, even if she is not the one to make the decision.
Good luck!
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