Hi Blob Is there some compromise to look for here? Sometimes just a small improvement can go a long way. i think that the time to ask for changes is now while the behaviior is appropriate and not wait until he is at the end of his rope. Yes they do learn to behave better as they get older but if there isnt anything in it for them than motivation may suffer. If you see benifits that DS isnt seeing then I agree to try to keep him in the environment to some degree but the whole set up sounds odd to my ear. Of course when your DS complains he complains bitterly but he still has reasonable complaints.
best wishes grinity
