Thank you for the more detail
. I hope that my prior replies didn't come across as critical. I am not assuming that you are reading too much into this or believing your child to be something that he isn't.
I am coming more from the perspective of a parent whose kids have been in a number of gifted or accelerated programs and realizing that they, too, are not a panacea for a gifted child.
For my oldest, b/c she conforms more to the idea of what a gifted child should be (focused, great at reading, high achieving, etc.), she has been served reasonably well by gifted programming. When it was just a small pull-out daily it wasn't enough, though. She skipped a grade the year before this one and is having her needs met fairly well with the accelerated math and reading classes in her new grade.
For my youngest, who sounds in some ways similar to your ds (more high energy, more divergent and creative), GT programming and a gifted id haven't really done it for her. She needs something that the school cannot provide.
What does the gifted program look like at his school and what grade does it start in?
