Maybe this mother is having the same insecurities that you are--thinking that everyone is assuming that her kid isn't bright because of the way that she is acting. I wouldn't assume that there was a message of superiority there; and, in fact, to the extent that there might have been, you should keep in mind that people often communicate superiority when they feel inferiority.
I think this is very often true. And I find myself more comfortable during these interactions when I think about them that way. The vast majority of people are NOT malicious in their intent and are just thinking out loud or expressing their own insecurities.
I often get asked if DS takes drama or acts (no - but maybe he should as an outlet), but almost never get asked about his GT-ness. Unless someone catches him one on one or he starts talking about what he's doing in math. Even his reading choice aren't quite as stand out as a 3rd grader in a area with lots of strong readers. He can read about anything, but wouldn't choose to necessarily. He still enjoys kid and young adult fiction. He did read some adult sci fi novels lately. The math does stand out though.
