Here's a recent post of mine and the responses that followed. I can relate; we are struggling with some of the same things. Check out this thread and see if it helps any. Dealing with perfectionism is certainly a challenge! I have discovered that I'm as much of a perfectionist as my 6yo.

http://giftedissues.davidsongifted.org/BB/ubbthreads.php/topics/60969/1.html