Opps!
Well I certianly plain out resent my son's musical ability. I'm also pleased and proud of him, but parenting is a tangled mess sometimes. So I could imagine a negative reaction to being beaten in chess, by such a pipsqueak, cute though he may be!
I love the idea that as your daughter's world becomes bigger, she will find other people for self-comparison. Getting a reasonable standard of comparison is one of the trickiest things for gifted folks, regardless of LOG. I myself grew up overshadowed by my younger brother's talents. The things that were special about me were just seen as weird, while the things that were special about him were 'so amazing.' I think developing a family motto, family stock stories, and family saying must play a really important role in families with siblings of differing LOG. Corny stuff like "It's not how quick you get it, it's how long you keep it." or "Fair isn't everyone the same, fair is each get what they need." As a sibling of twins, I have an insiders view of how much stress that puts on a family. So my hat is off to you, J!
Smiles,
Trintiy
