I took the summer to think about best course of action etc.
So my dilemna is that his teacher is this very sweet nice teacher and now I sound like a selfish pushy Mom if I insist on the things my child needs. Ugh! I would have rather she be hostile. Any advice?
Hi Breakaway,
I'll assume that since you 'took the summer to think' that you are a careful, thoughtful, organized kind of person. Or that asking for what you need is a hotbutton issue for you. It seems to me that you biggest challenge -right this moment- is that you are worried that you will be judged harshly. This may be because you feel like you don't have the social skills to insist nicely, or that you feel like someone might not like you asking nicely for what you son needs. Lots of us who grew up gifted are used to being told, directly and indirectly that 'you have it made, we don't have to worry about you, you shouldn't ask for anything.' You aren't alone - most of us have been right where you are.
Here's the bottom line - if you are ok within yourself that asking is what is needed, and keep asking - over and over as many times as is needed - in a way that consentrates on your child's needs, (not your own feeling of wanting reassurance, or revenge for past injustices) you will won't offend anyone - even if they don't obey.
Now lets think about the teacher. Even though she has lived through 'it' - obviously her daughter didn't suffer any long term damage
(at least not that the teacher is willing to percieve - wait until that daugher becomes a parent and gives her a grandson - then you will have the teacher crawling back to you on her knees ready to appologies.) Until then, you will have to smile and repeat, repeat,repeat until you win, I mean, get what your child needs.
I know myself that some things in this world seem so obvious to me,that if a person (ok- mostly I'm talking about my DH) doesn't see those things and get as excited as I feel, that the person must actively disagree with me. This is usually not the case. As smart as DH is, he just doesn't see things that I see. After I explain, then often he will agree and take action. But I'm still mystified!
Sorry for the spelling and the sermon - hang around here for a bit, and you will see that you aren't crazy - you are being reasonable!
Smiles,
Grinity
