My personal pet peeve though is almost the opposite, when parents comment "Well, Little Jimmy could easily skip a grade too, but we would just never do that (horrible thing) to our child".
Yeah, we got some of that too including from family members who said that so many of the other kids in the family were really smart, too, but none of them needed to skip a grade, so why should dd? From other parents, I tend to take it as defensiveness. From my parents, I don't know what it is, but I didn't really care what the other kids in the family needed nor was I prepared to comment on their needs. I only know about my kid.
Given that both of my girls are in those GT pull-outs that I mentioned, I guess that I also shouldn't care whether the std classrooms are meeting the needs of other kids. The GT classrooms generally aren't, either, though b/c they are stuffed with bright high achievers whose parents have them in extra tutoring.
