I have a strong feeling right now as to why D does not want to skip. Ghost is a school star, best scholar, SB officer, NJHS member, tutors kids, everybody knows his name kind of kid. SHE wants to achieve the same! She probably feels that is she skips now she will not be a leader any more!
This is tricky, and I agree with her reasons for wanting to stay where she is right now, but if you feel she could be all that WITH a gradeskip, then at some point I reccomend explaining to her that being a hero, at the cost of having one's needs met, is a bad, bad road to take. What if she was given the option of staying back so she could be sure to get as much praise and recognition as Ghost?
My guess is that you are right, and that you are going to have some 'teaching' to do here. Not an easy chore, but important. How many of us females have had the support to really push ourselves? Not many I would guess, unless economics was chasing at ones heels.
I'll bet she could do all that with a skip. If you agree, you owe it to her to 'put her on notice' that both is nice, but a 'right-sized' challenge is worth more.
Smiles and Love,
Trinity
