Are the kids allowed to play tackle football at recess? I'm thinking he might be ok if it is just touch. Has he ever played with Kids 9/10 in sports before? How does your child fit in compared to the size of the other boys?
I would approach this school in the manner of here is what he is feeling...any ideas? could we try older grade recess for a week and see how it goes?
I was playground aide at our school last year and with in the grades there is a big difference in the biggest kid to the smallest. The school would not be able to say the smallest kid can't play with the biggest. I think kids have to see how they fit in to the playground situation and can learn to find their place. If he plays football and it's too rough, does he have the judgement to find something else to do?
I do think recess is inportant. Recess time contentment or frustration can carry over to his school day and overall attitude about school. Last year my DS9 was having a very hard time at recess, very sensitive and didn't like all the cheating and bossing in games. I encouraged him to try afigure out how he can make it better. This year he is playing tech decks at school and having a great time. He is still working on how can he make this time good when difficulties occur.
Another suggestion might be to help him figure out how to make playground time better. Can he bring something in he likes to do to get some fun going? Can he learn a game that he could encourage a classmate to do with him. Can the teacher encourage a friendship? Children need to learn to get along with all kinds of people - smart and not so smart.
Good luck.
Last edited by onthegomom; 09/14/09 06:48 AM.
