I agree that it is time for the face-to-face meeting.

In fact, I have just emailed DS9''s teacher to request for some time to discuss about what "I" and the school can possibly do for DS. (I stated like "15 minutes" so that she doesn't feel the pressure that it is going to be a lengthy discussion of Ds's histories since she would have already read them in the school records). I figured that it has been 2 weeks and parent conference is in Oct! (so fast!) Something should be done soon. And if nothing can be done, I would want to know early too.

It's hard to try to be tactful, get your point across and get what u want. Sigh...

All the best!