Thanks for your reply, IronMom. I can feel your frustration, and I completely see why you're skeptical.
I know I'm not alone here in not understanding the schools' positions. It seems like it's our culture to want to believe that everyone is born equally intellectually capable, although nobody has issues believing that some people are just born athletes and others aren't.
Frankly, I feel like I'm holding on to a fantasy in believing that this year the school MIGHT do SOMETHING for DS. But DH and I are committed to gathering whatever we think might be even remotely helpful for DS to pitch to the teachers, since any accommodations at all at this point would be an improvement.
Hang in there!
