I know that this can be a particularly vexing problem for homeschoolers (and my DD is now among those), but don't feel bad. It can be equally problematic for kids who go to school. Think of all those teachers who subscribe to the "every child is gifted" philosophy. In many cases people are applying to DYS because their school is not accomodating their child's needs. It can make it awkward or difficult to get recommendations from teachers.
What I tell people who are concerned about this issue is that if the rest of your application clearly shows a DYS child, then it's not going to matter if the recommendations are less than stellar. You can always explain in the application that there was no ideal candidate to supply the recommendation.
Good luck!
