We have the same issue with DS5. I have decided to gather up what he has done and doing now and put them aside, and when his teacher is chosen, I will talk to her about his abilities and make sure to keep the communication open. I get the "he needs to get ready for school" response when I even think about mentioning him skipping K, as if he isn't already in a school setting. Anyway, keep the lines of communication open, and start with the teacher. If you need to move up the ladder then do so when you can't get any further with the first rung. I agree with Cathy A, wording the questions differently will help tremendously when discussing where your child is and where she should be.
Good luck! It seems there will be quite a few of us discussing kindergarten this year.
