Yippee CFK!
I've learned that when the children are little, getting them through the day without cripling levels of bordom is the key. Later when they are in Middle and High School, I think it's more about finding ways to motivate them so that they can use their strengths and loves to find a way to tolerate the hard parts.
When they are little it's about learning to get inside their head and seeing if there are 'other exceptionality's' that are getting in their way. When they are older, it's about fanning their internal motivation, and getting them used to making choices.
So interesting!