For girls in particular, middle school is all about who's who. Once they get to high school, they tend to splinter into groups and there isn't anywhere near the pressure of trying to fit in.

There actually comes a point when college is being discussed that your DD's position will become enviable, so tell her to hang in!

Shari
Mom to DS 10, DS 11, DS 13
Ability doesn't make us, Choices do!