I feel like I was pulled into the sunlight...thank you all for your replies, especially the wondrous "Dottie". That is really helpful information.
A final story (for now): I went to the principal when my oldest was in K to seek help, the teacher had thrown up her hands and said that she didn't know what to do with my daughter. The principal listened to my concerns and then yelled at me: "You think this is a PROBLEM? Lady, I have kids here who are behind and have real problems! This is not a problem." Needless to say, it was not a good year and no one helped us. We would have switched schools but knew we were moving to another state soon and didn't want change after change, especially since she had made friends.
