shellymos, my DD3 does the same thing -- sometimes when I sing in the car, she just flat out tells me not to. (C'mon, it's not THAT bad!!) Or she'll just tell me to turn the music off altogether sometimes if I turn it up for a song I like. I tell her calmly that she is not speaking to me nicely and then I demonstrate how she should phrase it ("Please turn the music down.") I will not give in to her commands until she can talk to me in a respectful way, however it's exhausting. And if she doesn't speak to me nicely, I ignore her request. Not sure if it's working, but I'll be damned if I'm going to jump through hoops for a bossy 3-yr-old!
I may have to try that technique of phrasing her request in the form of a question, kind of Jeopardy-style.
Or maybe I should teach her how to play Mother May I?
What frustrates me the most is that I will ask her something VERY NICELY to avoid an angry reaction out of her, and she STILL gets mad and stomps off! For the dumbest things, too. Argghh! Please tell me this temperamental behavior gets better as they get older. Otherwise one of us is going to end up in a straight jacket!
