I really liked how the book acknowledged what your child has access to... like the child who was doing advanced math - his mother was into mathematics. Because I think we can look at books like that and look more for reasons dd or ds "aren't" in then trying or hoping to see them at a higher level. Denial Rocks! I can alwasy look back and think, yes wow. But not forward... I have to believe it isn't us now because the path looks so uncomfortable.