From what I've observed with my own, Dazey, it's not stubborness. It's emotionbased, but not conscious, totally.

We have to remember that they are just kids! I don't think that we *really* see the purposefull defiance thing until puberty. And at age 2/3 grin

The thing that chills me the most is that I observed the behavior to be almost automatic and self protective.

This is not the case with all gifted kids! Of course! But it's how my girls react in an environment that is not condusive to how the learn, how fast they learn. It's part of how they are wired.

Other kids have all kinds of other issues. I think schools need to be far more flexible with families. I love that our principal is backing us with dual enrollment. He's the bomb!