I SO agree.
Last semester I wheedled my DS7 into a math co-op for 9-12yos that was taught by the mom of an HG+ child, and she literally ignored him when he spoke. It was so awful! I should have realized that her resistance was telling me it would never work.
This semester, we tried a school for homeschooled kids once a week. In our initial interview and schedule discussion with the school director, I nervously mentioned that I thought the math class for 9-12yos might be a better fit than the usual class for 6-8yos that meets at the same time. She didn't even pause; she was all for it! Gun shy, I pulled back, but she persisted, "Let's try it! If he's not happy with it, he can always transfer into the other class."
That was it! Too easy, I feared...
I worried and worried about it...until I talked to the teacher a couple of weeks into the class. She totally gets DS7 and loves having him in class! She said "He's in exactly the right spot."
I was so relieved! I actually let it spill out about his other 9-12yo math class and how awful it had been, not to mention how nervous it had made me about her class. She actually hugged me and said, "That won't happen here." I believe her!
That's a long way of saying:
YES, if they don't want your HG+ child in the program, you may not want the program.
