There is the homeschool nation... It's a lot easier than packing up and moving to another country!
I had the same sort of concern: every year was going to be another battle to even begin to get DS7 what he needed--and usually my Herculean efforts weren't going to come *close* to getting him what he needed. So instead, I chose to spend my time and efforts on his actual education, on homeschooling.
So far so good for us. You might choose not to go this route, but it sounds like it's something you should probably at least look into, given your current state of mind. You know?
