Thanks, kcab. I like these ideas, and I think I could go to a PTA meeting. I went to one, but it was a mess. I can try harder if I have a mission!
We got a valentine list, but it is first names for the kids. I will see if I can get a list of parents. We don't have a room parent. I volunteer outside of the classroom - mostly because DS had trouble focusing with me in his Montessori community last year.
What about your son's friends - find out one from the class and invite them over for a playdate, that will require talking to a parent at least briefly.
DS doesn't have any friends. He sometimes calls a kid in another class his friend (I dunno when they interact), but when he sees the kid, DS doesn't acknowledge him - even if the other kid says "hey". He is *friends* with an older girl in our neighborhood, but that's it.
...I sound pathetic. Sorry. You have been great. I am motivated to go get the parents in gear.