I don't have better advice for you about the testing than what you've already gotten. I, too, would advise you to wait to see the scores before you worry. It may not be a problem at all.
I would like to address this:
And I won't stop if he bombs these test, thanks for the support. I guess we shouldn't fear being 'that parent.' Because we do need to advocate for our kids.
I always say that I'd rather be "that mom" than have my child be "that kid." I can prepare myself for it and handle it; they shouldn't have to.
I'm glad you're not planning to give up. It is really, really hard to advocate! But keep up the good work.
Oh, and if I may address your child's perfectionism, I think that often the apple doesn't fall far from the tree on that count. I know that's the case in our house!
I'm definitely wound a bit too tightly, and I have to fight it every day!
My advice, from one perfectionist to another? Relax as much as you can, especially about the testing. If he's already got an anxiety issue, your anxiety isn't going to help there. In terms of the big picture, allow yourself to make mistakes and show him that you're okay with it. Try new things and fail miserably at them--with a big smile on your face. I really think that this sort of modeling is the best thing you can do for perfectionism...for both of you!
Finding a challenge helps, too, but you're already working on that!
Best wishes for grand success!
