Same experience here, Katelyn'sMom. I always said he deserved an explanation before any request/order - you have to do x because, never because I said so. And he complied. Never had tantrums. But then again, that's probably him. Had meltdowns - but they were related to unmet sensory issues we didn't know about at the time (noise, smells, uncomfortable clothing, etc.) and happened mostly when he was tired or hungry and just couldn't cope with whatever it was that he found distressing.