I know it's hard, but try to follow the psych's advice. She may be guiding you this way because she has had dealings with the school before in terms of gifted children?
Depending on the school district, there can be a lot of politics.
I agree about keeping him home a few days or so, and yes, I don't think there is any reason you can't say he is sick.
I would call your state rep's office or over to the state board of ed and find out all the pertinent facts.
I found out all kinds of great stuff for our state. Like, a child can't even be considered truant here until they are seven! If you lived by me you could take him out as many days as you like and that's that. You might get a bad mommy letter, but realistically, they can't do anything about it.
You really do need to start researching. While it IS true, kids/families can get "blacklisted", I've rarely seen it happen. Please do not let fear of retaliation prevent you from making the desicions you need to make for DS.
Do, play nice, though. If things get really bad, call the psych and let her know what's going on. Perhaps she can speed up the process with the school eval/visit.
Hang in there.
