I think the key is to follow a young child's lead. Flash cards are cheap, and you can leave them near the potty or the car seat and see if she shows any interest during her 'down time.' If there is a book that I wanted DS to read, but he didn't seem intersted - I would leave it in a place where he was sure to be bored, and therefore a bit more open to new things.
Grinity

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