Oh, Squirt! I totally agree with everything SPG says. Hugs, school not working, homeschooling already, etc.
I know you've talked about your DH and his objections to HSing before, but I don't recall details.
Is your DH the only obstacle to HSing? If he were on board, would you be HSing right now?
I really, REALLY think that if you want to HS and you think it is the best option for your son, then you need to express that to your DH and actively campaign to change his mind. He needs to face the fact that your son has special needs, and you are going to have to do *something* special for him. If you've tried private schools and public schools, and they aren't going to work for your particular child, then what's left? I think you owe it to your DS to explore homeschooling.
What are your DH's concerns about HSing? Has he enumerated them clearly for you? If not, require that of him. Some vague refusal isn't okay. You might even ask him to put it in writing for you so he has time to make his best case. You need to take this up a notch. It's time to get serious.
What type of evidence might your DH respond best to? Facts and figures, success stories, seeing for himself that HSers don't have to be wackos? Frame your case in the way that he'll best respond to, but MAKE THE CASE and MAKE IT STRONGLY.
Also note that if it doesn't work out, it doesn't have to be permanent. HSing is a highly reversible choice.
In the meantime, start integrating HSing into your lives. Subscribe to "Secular Homeschooling" magazine:
http://www.secular-homeschooling.com/index.html . Join a HSing group and start attending events and getting together with members on playdates. Etc. It's a lot easier to accept something that's outside the norm if you make it part of your norm.
Seriously, if you think this is the right thing for your child, then your DH needs to get off the tracks and on the train!
