Ugh. Tough call. I wish I had more advice for you but as you see we're trying to figure it out too!
One thing that has been working for us is that as we're trying to work through the system, we're also after schooling DS when time permits (finally, this week has started to allow that). We're also very open with DS and explaining that we're meeting with his teacher, trying to make sure that school is still fun and a place to learn, etc. Might not work for everyone, but DS seems to be relatively emotionally mature when he wants to be. So we let him know that he's doing a good thing by doing his work, that it will get more interesting, and that we are scheduled to talk to his teacher. We even went so far as to let him know that it might take a while. When at home, when we have teaching moments, we make the most use of them. Tonight was a very very good night for us, for example.
But I feel for you. DS is also reading chapter books and I don't think that's something they really get into until the end of the year... Initially we were like "whew, they let us enter first early" and a week later we're already ready to go back and ask for more...
JB (not on any soapbox tonight)
