I am thinking he is more likely ADHD with VPD and maybe dysgraphia. What throws me on the dysgraphia is that he can write just fine (cursive and print) when he is motivated which is rare. Prefers typing.
I'd be careful about this. You will hear it said that the only consistent thing about 2e kids is their inconsistency. And it is very, very common to have real disabilities dismissed as a lack of motivation. It must be even worse to have that coming from your parent than from your teachers if there is actually a disability.
