This is all so ridiculously helpful! Thank you so much!

It's amazing how little I care at this point whether or not either kid is "gifted" or not as long as they are getting the resources they need. Hopefully we'll get this visual thing sorted out. I've googled and found the right doctors to contact in about a year, and I've also emailed and asked his preK teacher to keep an eye out for any delays or asychronicity between his verbal and non-verbal abilities.