"We are not looking for school to be a place where all of my child's learning needs are met - for a PG kid, it is impossible in a group setting."
This is so true. Sounds like you're doing a great job of knowing what your kid can and does get out of school, and making sure he gets what he needs otherwise, in other venues. There are so many variables to take into account in figuring out how best to meet the actual needs. It's wonderful that you're supporting him so well, and it sounds like you're helping him have realistic expectations about school. I would encourage you to keep evaluating the option of acceleration as the years go on. What wasn't right for him at age 8 might be a good option at age 13. Or not.
