Thank you for the replies thus far...you all have mentioned things I am not aware of, so I will look into everything!

My immediate goal for her is to just like math, or at the very least not fight it, she seems genuinely pleased when she "gets it", then the walls come up when answers aren't forthcoming quick enough (in her mind).

I want her to keep all her options open, at 12 it is hard to predict where her path will take her, so I just want to keep all the gears greased!