For your child, regarding the drawing... maybe check out the book called "Ish" By Peter Reynolds. She may be able to relate to that.
It is interesting you mention about your DD getting frustrated because it does not look like what is in her head... because my kids were just watching a Creative Galaxy episode (Amazon prime show) where the main character messed up the portrait of his sister, or so he thought... and how art is really about what you like, not about having everything perfect on canvas.
