Thanks so much to both of you for these quick responses!!
CollinsMum - You are really making me feel better about my instincts. And those are excellent ways to present the situation to the school, especially since they are going to stay on our radar for the future.
SFrog - we've had the same experience with DS. But we've been offering this idea in different forms for a couple of months. He absolutely sees the slippery slope, as CollinsMum describes it (no metter how we try to disguise it), and he won't touch it. I think with the better teacher and the Best Friend, he is experiencing a little feeling of inclusion and normalcy for the first time, and it is too sweet for him to imagine leaving.
I love this board ....so much.
