hehe I have it saved as a PDF, but I managed to find it online for you too

Many thank Madoosa! I realize now that I had actually read this one some time ago, before it's relevance quite sunk in. Some reminders I needed right now include the relationship between compensation and inconsistency, and the importance of early intervention rather than "wait and see if it self-resolves". Thanks for pointing me back at this!
ETA: And just how utterly exhausting all that compensating can be. I really need to remember that.