We have a similar situation in our house. I have a DS8 (PG) and DD4 (some kind of G). With DS8, before he was in school, I didn't think one minute about giftedness. He seemed ahead, but I just wanted him to play and enjoy all the wonderful things about being a little kid, so didn't think at all about what would happen when he got to K. K was fine, 1st grade a disaster (when we discovered that he was PG). Honestly, I am very glad that I didn't stress for 1 minute over what school was going to be like for him. I was blissfully unaware. I think it was the best thing for him (and all of us).
DD4 seems even farther ahead than DS was at the same age. To me, she is clearly at least HG, is not nearly as smooth socially as her brother and is not typically girly. At this point, she is clearly a huge misfit for any school situation (except her current preschool, which is a divine gift among preschools - they accept her lovingly as she is and they encourage her to learn what she wants and play as she wants). But I am not stressing for 1 minute about K for her. She deserves and needs the same preschool experience as her brother (she goes very few hours and spends plenty of time at home playing and creating).
She does what apparently a lot of other gifted kids do - she pretends that she doesn't know things. She's been asking me to teach her how to read and so we've being doing bits here and there. I ask her to read some words back to me, she tells me that she can't read at all. She even fake sounds out the words incorrectly. While visiting another friend, she read a book to her. The dad says to me, "Wow she reads so well." She's never read for me. It's all a delightful game to her. I'm playing along. It will all unfold in time.
The cynical part of me tells myself, "the sh-t will hit the fan anyway when she gets to K, why stress about it now." There are no private or public programs that will likely meet her needs. I can homeschool her too, if that's what she needs.
Last edited by somewhereonearth; 09/08/14 07:37 PM.
