Lovemybaby writes:
"She's determined (has been since two or so) to learn the flute but I can't find anyone who teaches the flute to a child her age"

Look into Suzuki method, very popular in the US. They start kids as young as 2/3 years old, have special curved flutes that grow with a child. Same goes for a violin. I gave my daughter violin (1/16)for her second birthday because she was trying to play with mine. She started proper lessons at the age of 3 and half but already knew how to handle and make sound on a violin. Those instruments are not very expensive but open up a world of new experiences ;-)
Ania