It's hard to know where to go to report- I live in a metropolitan area with with gifted advocacy groups and a fairly robust (compared to other areas) gifted and HG public programs.
Without resources for homeschooling or a carefully selected private school- it's going to be hard for this family.
If her child meets the Davidson qualifications, she should definitely apply. Our consultant would be an advocate if we need it.
If the staff is being abusive and dishonest, it needs to go to an administrator- starting with the principal and upwards from there. That is unacceptable.
I have heard that parents and families can find themselves at the mercy of district policies and lack of programs. If a child isn't struggling academically and the district doesn't have a gifted program, families can find themselves SOL.
We opted for private at some financial sacrifice because we wanted to have some voice--even so, we found ourselves at odds with my child's school in first grade because it was the "real" academic year (his K teacher was happy to differentiate because she saw that he had mastered K skills). I think the school was overly worried about their standardized test results so was basically educating all of the kids to the test rather than to their needs. (I wish I could say I'm being cynical). We moved DS to a more progressive school with a differentiated curriculum and less emphasis on test results.
I digress:)- my point is that when kids are HG or higher, there is almost no perfect long term academic solution. We have come close for the present, but it took some shopping.
I think as far as your anger- you may be projecting (no offense intended). I was quite angry after moving my son out of school- and still simmer a bit when I think of some the conversations and runaround that I got from his teacher. It's going to be up to this family to advocate for their child.
