I'm so glad I've finally posted. It is sooo nice to bounce ideas off others who have or have had similar issues.
ultramarina- To be honest, I'm not sure of his issue at school making friends. I do know he feels different. However, outside of school, he is able to play with neighborhood kids. He is also active on swim team, cub scouts and does gymnastics. So, overall, socially, he interacts well with other kids- just not at school. Also, last year (or now when he realizes the situation isn't working with a kid) he starting acting super silly to try to get attention.
Indigo- we have not formally put in writing the pros and cons, but we have talked a lot. That may lead to more discussion. Also, I don't mind or take offense if someone offers advice I've done or have thought of- really it just gives me confidence that I'm doing the right thing.
Polarbear- Ds does have some vision and fine motor issues which the school is refusing to acknowledge too.
Thanks for sharing your experience. We probably should look at the school and see for ourselves and really ds if its as perfect as we imagine.
The tester said to appeal to the district, we should hire an advocate ($) to handle the process. Yet, she also shared with us that another family went this route, spent lots of money, won, but really burned a lot of bridges. They ended up pulling their dc after all that out of the system. She basically told us our district does not like to be challenged.
