With my DD8 (2e) I have found that making it "easy peasy" works like a charm. Within a couple of weeks she is looking for a challenge herself. "Nope, we'll scribe everything for you - I don't want your hand to hurt" leads to her sneaking off to write herself notes. "No you just listen in the 8th grade reading group" becomes her asking to please be able to take a turn reading along with them. If she was told to read or write we would hear about headaches, how much her hand is hurting, etc. Her wanting to do it at her own pace makes all the difference in the world. YMMV...
