I believe that Kids like ours are so thin on the ground that most elementary teachers have no idea of how to teach them because they just haven't encountered that LOG before. What they have encountered, though, is Tiger parents that insist that their hothoused snowflake is the next Einstein. I think that they therefore slip into the 'give the kid more work and they will shut up' rut.
Absolutely. I was told, flat out, by the diagnostician (who does both the spec ed & g&t testing for the whole district) that she'd never seen a score as high as my sons... and it was 145.. many on this board have kids with much, much higher scores. They honestly had nothing in place to work with kids like him. It was just more worksheets and more worksheets.