It sounds to me that your concern is that someone in the special education department in your district might try to force your hands and put your DS2 in a fully self-contained special autism/social communication disorder program. Are they pressuring you to consent to their placement recommendation?
Not pressuring but strongly recommending. I know they mean well but they don't know DS like we do. The official recommendation is school therapy and regular special ed preschool program but he completely shuts down in therapy and doesn't communicate there at all and given how he reacts, the preschool program would be a total disaster. He is so anxious / stressed out in the school environment that he refuses to do anything, other than saying bye bye and heading for the door. So even his school therapist said that while the recommendation is such and such, she doesn't see how he'd function there and that he would need Autism classroom. Plus, the autism classroom was also mentioned at his initial IEP meeting but they knew ahead of time I was refusing to put him even in the regular special ed preschool so they didn't push the issue further at that point. BUT the speech therapist herself, while working for the school, is a homeschooling mom!
And unofficially hinted that she can see why I would want to homeschool him. I wrote about it in another one of my posts where we had to pull him out of the school therapy he had been in for 5 weeks because it was really negatively affecting his behavior. He left the therapy angry at everyone, hitting, screaming, crying ... we quit about 4 weeks ago and he's back to his happy funny self. Yet of course, I got a letter from the special ed director mentioning them wanting DS in the preschool in the fall and holding him a spot. After I clearly explained to her quite a few times that it is not in our plans. Oh well ...
