I understand this girl may or may not be pg and that it may be presumptuous for me to say so. Yes, she may be a late bloomer. That's true.
There is an assumption by some that 'giftedness' is not an innate trait/characteristic but is gained or developed through proper education or parenting. UK parents face similar issues based on Child Genius (
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/...is-a-genius-and-it-isnt-always-easy.html)
I realize that there are parents with children who are pulling them for the intellectual stimulation or activities, but there's a difference between them and those children who are put in the intellectually stimulating or other activities because they parents think it will give them a competitive edge in school or life - not because the child has an interest or likes an activity.
Some parents are anxious to let their children get bored or to let their children have free or unoccupied time. Other parents think children will not gain valuable musical training, for instance, if they do not start before a certain time. They think it's never too early to start anything. I've had parents tell me these things and I've since read about these parents too.
Perhaps this hyperparenting that I've encountered is worse in places NYC and MA where competition can be fierce for jobs, housing, slots at school or university, or even nursery school. I don't know. I do know, though, that I'm not the only one who has noticed it and commented on it. Many parents are plagued with worry that they are not doing enough today.
