Good Luck! I have been *somewhat* successful by asking straight, clear questions. I have sent the link you have referenced, along with the school's policy regarding gifted and talented (mine says that the district must have a clear identification process made available to parents) and asked for the identification procedure and the current curriculum that happens during the day and the numbers of kids involved. Oh, and I asked for the response in writing. After 5 years, we have a gifted and talented pullout program that is best described as "camp". It is a start. I didn't always sound so business, but after 4 years, I realized that they weren't going to do anything. Once they had to put it in writing, they came up with a plan. I think they might have been scared that I was going to appeal the "gifted and talented" program to the next levels. By the way, the district and I aren't on the best of terms, but they don't lie to me nearly as much, or are better at covering their tracks. And I too, have gotten better, I ask for everything IN WRITING and in conjuction with state and district policy.
I wish you luck.