Congratulations, Jool! It's so exciting, isn't it!?
I did tell my son that he is a DYS--though it isn't a subject of daily conversation or anything--because he wanted to know why I was so happy on the day that the letter arrived. (Seriously, I did a little jig in the driveway!) I told him that he had been accepted into a group of other bright kids like him, where hopefully I can get some advice to help with his education and where he can make some friends. I didn't tell him that it's for PG kids or for kids with an IQ over X amount. I was as non-specific as I could be about that aspect of DYS. "Bright kids like you" was fine.
He has a DYS e-mail penpal, and we have plans to attend a couple of DYS-related events over the summer, one that required asking his opinion about some things and buying a plane ticket. Planning those events without explaining to DS6 what they were or why we were going would have been more trouble than it was worth to me. ("But why are we going? Who's going to be there? I don't understand...") It's not worth that hassle when I can just answer the question with a simple, "It's for DYS," and have him say, "Oh. Cool."
BTW, DS6 is homeschooled, so that might factor into my choice. He's pretty confident about himself and his abilities, so I'm quite sure he's not going to run around bragging about it to his friends (as he surely would have at the start of the year in public school).
YMMV...
