hi nikki b! removed from the emotional context, i STILL find most of this stuff totally hilarious/gross - and i'm 40 years old!
i'm not sure - you may have tried this already... but there are some great books out there for kids on the subject, and what i've found with my kid (albeit she's 5) is that just leaving books around on her shelf has sparked a lot of terrific conversations about this kind of thing. we have both medical texts and the ones aimed at pre-teens that discuss all the weird and messy feelings (she hasn't picked those up yet, but they're waiting for her!) you could probably slip the books onto his shelf without comment - he'll find them for sure. and while your DS may not feel comfortable reading/sharing
with you - teen/pre-teens are such secretive beasts! - the ability to do a little research on his own might help make him more comfortable with the whole idea.
if you're wondering about the sexuality issues - finding a friendly, modern book that also includes this kind of information in a clear and matter-of-fact way would really help. if this is indeed at the root of his concerns, finding himself on the page may go a long way.
best of luck!!
