Honestly, you're not GOING to 'even things out' through external means if it's just a matter of differential ability and asynchronous development.
But you can sure annoy the heck out of them while you try.
I'd do what she seems willing to do and derives enjoyment/satisfaction from accomplishing-- in other words, the outcome that you're actually looking at has nothing to do with achievement,
per se. It's about developing the person that your child is supposed to become as she grows.
I realize that sounds kind of touchy-feely and alternative, but in the preschool years, it's TRUE. There's absolutely nothing so important as learning how to enjoy learning for its own sake.
