Eibbed- no advice, but can definitely empathize. My dh has been extremely worried about this. He has asked me if we are going to "make the problem worse"? (By ds going even more ahead).
Me- I am trying to do the greatest good with the less harm. Aren't we all? I know my ds need to have academic opportunities in areas of interest. He is miserable at school. If he was happy and wasn't actively asking to learn all the time; maybe I would be offering less at home.
I do understand the worry, but as others have said: your ds is going to learn way or another, because he wants and craves it. You are just helping him supply that need. I am slowly, very slowly that our children are not like or ever will be like average age mates (whatever average is anyways). Yet, they are who they are, and we have to nurture their interests and desires the same as we would for any child.
One other thought, if you ds was below grade level, you would have no (or very little) guilt for the time, effort, and exposure you would be providing for you ds to get him to grade level. All you are doing is letting him continue to learn. There's nothing wrong with that.
No helpful thoughts about school as we are in a similar situation. We are going to get ds tested (by a private tester) and hopefully receive some advice about school. If school is unwilling to help adequately, homeschool we will go. We'll see.
Honestly, I think you are a fantastic parent for advocating for your son and helping him have learning opportunities! Hang in there!
